As a young man living in London, I thought I had it all. The perfect pad. The fun friends. The most amazing girlfriend I knew in my heart of hearts was ‘the one’ for me. We were living this life together of fun, joy, and laughter everywhere we went. All of our friends wanted their relationships to be like ours, and I was putting everything I am into our relationship. What I didn’t realize at the time, though, was that my girlfriend at the time was not invested in our relationship to the same level I was. She called things off after a night out with some of our friends, telling me that I was too clingy, too focused on her, and she wants someone who knows who he is. That moment is one that I’ll never forget. Because up until then, I knew who I was. When in reality, as I would come to discover later, I had no clue whatsoever who I was… Let’s just say I went into a hole of crying into ice cream containers as you see in the movies for a long time. Even grew the beard and forgot to shower for a bit. My life was over as I knew it because it was all about Michelle and nothing else.
I was not in a great place and I tried to search for ways to change that. I found the goal-setting method on Instagram. At first, I didn’t know what to think of it. But I felt like shit and I had nothing to lose so I ordered it. I started flipping through the pages and reading the questions it was asking whoever it belonged to. Things like, ‘What does your life look like in 5 years from now?’ ‘What do you want to have for yourself?’ Then I got the whole section about who I was and the choices I’d been making up till now… That’s when I realized I didn’t know who I was at all. I spent the entire night reading through the tips and answering the prompts more honestly than I’ve answered anything ever before. The visualization power with the pages of my Mindway method led me on the pathway to not only redefining who I was after losing Michelle but discovering an entirely different, more empowered part of myself that was making healthier choices and living a life in pursuit of my passions.